The Official Me in Me

Remember when you were a child and you dreamed about what you wanted to be when you grew up? A princess, a fireman, a doctor, a lawyer, a basketball player…you know what I mean? So from that point you as a child growing up did everything you knew to make that dream a reality.

You studied, you read, you participated in activities geared towards that dream, and you even surrounded yourself with people and things that was about that dream. As you got older that dream then became a goal. And what you put out about that dream was received in all that you said and did. But I pose the question…did you think of a plan B just in case? Did you prepare for the possible failure?

Now we all do our best to not think about failure when we are driven to making our dreams a reality but the thought of failing can do 1 of 2 things…drive us to success or scare us into failing. But this is not about failure.

I shed tears of happiness for all the dreamers. To dream is to be alive, to dream is to challenge oneself, to dream is to live a limitless life. But once that dream becomes a reality do you stop dreaming? For me my dreams have brought visions. Vision of being able to take that dream which has now become a reality a create ways to help others turn their dreams into a reality.

I love the places my dreams have taken me and the position my dreams have put me in. But these dreams have also sparked a passion deep within me to NEVER say die. These passions are the fuel for me to protect what I believe in. You the dreamer must always stand for what fuels that dream. Never say die, never give up, and always remember all dreams comes with challenges.

The challenges were placed there to build your character and prepare you for the trails you will face in life. Once that dream has become the reality search for the vision because the vision is the key to keeping the reality of your dream.

My ode to the dreamers.

The title of the picture above is:
The Dreamer or the dreams
by Laura Givens
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Here is a topic that has been in the press for a while and much of the world is talking about the BIG ANNOUNCEMENT that will be on the show tonight. I have not really watched the show and really have not been interested in watching it. Now don’t get me wrong I do watch some reality shows but this is one that does not grab me.

But after having the talk of Jon & Kate and the various issues facing their marriage and family life I do want to see what this announcement is. I have asked myself what do I feel about the show and the people involved. As it pertains to the show I could care less because it is not about the people but more about the ratings so the station can make the top dollars…”PIMPing if you will”!

As it pertains to the people…I really feel bad for them all. Especially the children. My wife & I have 4 and we know some of the challenges they face being our children. But we are also advocates for them being themselves. That is such a fine line because we know the many challenges they are going to face and how some may respond to their choices. Most important they will have to deal with the family name and that alone is a great pressure.

But to think in my mind that both Jon & Kate are going to give up marriage (if I am gonna go based upon the many speculations and latest gossip), I can only ask the question…”If they were not on TV and in the spot light like this would they have given up on each other”? Once again that question is based upon some unknown but highly speculated talk.

I am not a medical expert (that is my wife’s gift area) but it is a known fact that after giving birth to a child (or children) a woman can develop PTSD or even become depressed. But men too can develop the same through the pressures of parenthood and marriage and I feel they both were not prepared for what was ahead when they agreed to take on this responsibility of opening their lives and home to the camera and the millions of people viewing.

As much as I like some of the reality shows I still often asked what was that person thinking when they agreed to do this? I really hope that this big announcement finds Jon & Kate taking a stand and defending their marriage & family instead of allowing the company and cameras to continue to destroy their lives right before our eyes.

So tune in tonight on TLC. Times vary based upon your location. Check your local listing by clicking here TV Guide

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So this particular subject has basically taken over the news for a while now. Kinda reminds me of the O.J. and Michael Jackson saga. Now do not get it twisted since we as people have become so WORD SENSATIVE nowdays and are quick to take offense at one’s opinions just because we may have a different view. But I am sick of this OCTO-MOM stuff.

No matter what we may think (because everybody is chiming in on this subject) the deed is done now. We will never really know where this ladies head was before, during, and even after all of this. That is a conversation only she and the good LORD above will have. I do know as a parent of 4 how challenging it can be and make no mistake I truly beleive once the hype dies down for her she will begin to feel the mental and physical pressures of having to take care of those children. Now many folk have offered assistance to this family and I do not really understand why she won’t swallow her pride and accept it. But once again that is between her and GOD not little ole me.

Now listening to parts of the Dr. Phil interview she had led me to believe a couple things:

1. Dr. Phil is nosey as hell and is only hurting the situation by being involved. If he really wanted to help he should have done it off camera.
2. They way the issue between her and her parents was exploited to the max! I wonder how much her mother got paid?
3. The harsh reality is starting to set in on Nadya and she is a mental ticking time bomb.
4. Woman do get PTSD from child birth and people need to make getting her REAL help a priority instead of dancing around the fire.

You check the video out for yourself:

Now according to statistics there are approximately 13.6 million single parents in the United States today, and those parents are responsible for raising 21.2 million children (approximately 26% of children under 21 in the U.S. today). Click here to read the restand that is not a small number at all. This has been an issue for a long time and it seems to me the only time anybody gets their ass in gear to address it is when something like Nadya’s situation or the situation like the mother here in DC killed her 4 children hits the press.

And according to what has (and is) being written about those situations is that the mothers both suffered from some sort of depression or lack of something. But isn’t this a global issue? I mean the stresses of trying to support ourselves let alone our children (for those who have them), or even somebody elses child or family is enough to make anybody batty. I just know and deeply feel this young lady is not capable of asking for help mentally or physically and those in position to not just help her but also those children should step up. Keeping it real if it was me…they would have been took my children from me no questions asked. They would have labeled me an unfit parent and took them away.

What is it gonna take before they realize this young lady really does need help across the board?

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